Parenting is obviously both rewarding and challenging at times. If you have a child in college, this is likely not news to you. You're probably like hundreds of other parents in North Carolina who have worked hard for years and done your best to help your child reach his or her full potential in life.
Then, that day came when you helped your son or daughter move into a new college dorm or apartment. You set aside thoughts of exorbitant tuition costs because you were so happy about your child's opportunity to receive a good education at a reputable school.
Challenges of college life
Especially if your child has never been away from home for an extended period of time, adapting to college life has probably been a great test of character in many ways.
The following are common issues he or she may face during the first few years:
- The new found freedom of being outside parental supervision may be both exciting and challenging for your child.
- Developing good study habits is a noble idea that may be thwarted by invitations to socialize.
- Getting to classes on time and meeting assignment deadlines are likely high on the list of what may cause your child stress as he or she adapts to a college lifestyle.
Although your son or daughter is probably learning to be accountable for personal actions, there are still many times where your financial and emotional support is needed.
You may experience a wide range of emotions as you guide your child through college. One minute, you're proud of the academic and personal accomplishments being achieved, the next, youre wrought with worry because of a particular issue brought to your attention.
It's natural for a parent like yourself to seek a support network, not only to help with the basics of getting used to your child being away from home, but to provide important guidance and assistance if a serious problem arises.
Getting a phone call that changes your life
Perhaps you're already facing trying circumstances. If you have received a phone call informing you your child has gotten in trouble with the law due to drug charges or some other alleged crime, you may be wondering where to turn for help.
You obviously want to help your child avoid conviction and preserve a good standing at school, but you may also be concerned with protecting your financial investment. The following resources may prove valuable to you now:
- A trusted friend or family member: If you can find a confidant with whom you may share your thoughts, it may help you remain calm as you navigate this difficult situation.
- A minister or counselor: Others facing similar problems have found it very helpful to reach out to their faith-sharing communities for moral support during difficult circumstances.
- An experienced criminal defense attorney: Especially if your child is of minor age, but, even if not, securing skilled and aggressive defense representation may be the easiest way to help you minimize the emotional, legal and financial impact of your child's problem.
Your child is certainly not the first (and will not be the last) college student to face drug charges (or other criminal allegations) in North Carolina. It's also probably not the first time you and your family have faced a difficult situation together.
By making informed decisions and being proactive, you may be able to help your child stay out of jail and get back on track at school. Requesting a meeting with an advocate who has successfully helped others in similar circumstances is a logical first step to take toward obtaining a positive outcome.